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A prankster – call him Mr. Assumptions – wants to trip up even the best communicators among us.

 “You know what’s best,” he whispers in our ears while we write perfect messaging for our communications programs. “You know who they are and what they really need. They just don’t know it until you tell them.”

Uh, huh. Sure.

Obviously it’s best to avoid making assumptions, but it’s easy to do. You don’t even have to try, and the consequences are unwanted. Your communications program is off the mark and confuses your audience.

For me, an antidote to assumption-making is to remember a story a friend shared with me.

John lives in a neighborhood with a diverse cast of residents. While walking into the corner convenience store, one of his friends – a woman who is homeless – asked for a cup of coffee. John was happy to help.

Inside the store, he decided to go above and beyond and buy her a bagel, too. He said he was proud of himself for being generous and thoughtful.

Outside, John offered the coffee/bagel bonanza to his friend. She accepted the coffee and said “no thanks” to the bagel, adding, “I’m on a diet.” She wasn’t kidding.

 The experience, John said later, made him think about the assumptions he sometimes makes of others along with his solutions to their needs.

His story encouraged me to take a fresh look at my own practices. I do so regularly and have concluded it’s essential – especially for communicators – to avoid assumptions by:

• asking someone what they want or need.
• listening from their perspective, not ours. 
• resisting the temptation to fit their responses into our predetermined solutions.

Listening without assuming. It’s easy to understand the theory, but it’s not always easy to practice it.  We need to try. Goodbye, Mr. Assumptions.